Holy Shit That's Me

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, That's not what I meant?

Said something at the worst possible moment and watched everything change? Given everything you had and still ended up misunderstood? Built an entire story in your head about what someone meant-only to discover it was never true?

You're not alone. And you're not broken.

Most of us live from patterns we never chose and rarely notice. We people-please. We overgive. We make meaning out of silence. We leave before we're left. We absorb everyone else's emotions until we lose sight of our own. We tell ourselves stories before anyone else has said a word.

Holy Shit, That's Me is a book of true stories about the things we all do and never notice we're doing. No clinical language. No lectures. Just real moments-funny, uncomfortable, and familiar-that will have you saying, Holy shit... that's me.

Kelly Blakey spent seventeen years as a therapeutic foster parent, working with hundreds of individuals and families navigating trauma, relationships, and personal change. Along the way, she realized the same patterns she saw in others were alive in her own life, too. This book is the result of that realization.

This isn't a book about fixing yourself.

It's about finally seeing yourself clearly.

Because you can't change a pattern you can't see.