Between The Reins

Some horses teach us how to ride. The unforgettable ones teach us who we are.

Between the Reins: What Horses Teach Us About Ourselves is a heartfelt exploration of the lessons horses reveal through trust, fear, pressure, failure, patience, and connection. Drawing from a life shaped by horses, Adam Lonkey shares honest stories and reflections about the moments when the greatest challenge was not changing the horse-but understanding the person holding the reins.

Horses sense what we try to hide. They feel tension in our hands, doubt in our bodies, and frustration in the way we ask. They expose our impatience, reflect our confidence, and remind us that trust cannot be forced. In return, they teach us how to listen, lead with humility, recover from setbacks, release control, and begin again.

This is not a training manual. It is a book for anyone who has ever been humbled, healed, challenged, or changed by a horse.

Whether you compete, ride for pleasure, work in the horse industry, or simply carry a lifelong love for these remarkable animals, Between the Reins will remind you that the most meaningful lessons often happen far beyond the arena.

Because sometimes the horse is not the one being trained.

Sometimes, it is us.